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5 Dos and Don'ts when Setting New Years Resolutions

Health and Wellness is a choice every single day. There is nothing special about January 1st, but as you start to think through what you want 2021 to look like, we jotted down 5 tips to help you create flexible, attainable, intentional, and simple goals.

New Year’s resolutions can absolutely be fun, and AH a fresh start sounds pretty DANG NICE. But every day is a new day. I say this to encourage you more than anything, because January 1st is no different than the day before or today for that matter. Ives and I had our typical touch base today and we got to chatting about goal setting, as it’s that time of the year where you will be targeted for challenges and diet supplements. Don’t get me wrong, I am all about reflecting on the past year and thinking through what you want MORE of and LESS of in your life this coming year, but we both agreed that it truly is a choice you have to make every single day. To be committed to yourself and your health and wellness journey. You can sign up for a 30-day challenge and hey we don’t see anything wrong with that, but unless you implement what you have learned and continue to commit to your new lifestyle, you won’t see lasting changes (sorry if this depresses you, just keeping it real and also here to encourage you, because it AINT always easy). Ives and I make goals, adjust, and pivot all the time. Especially as new mamas and a year of work from home and lack of childcare. We are here to relate and help as you start to think about 2021. Let’s make the most of what we have left of 2020 and talk through 5 Dos and Do NOTs as you approach 2021 goal setting!

  1. Do reflect on the beauty, struggles, and resilience you built in the year 2020. Gratitude is powerful and yes 2020 was tough for most, but there was so much goodness hidden underneath it all. Make a gratitude list. Don't jump right into 2021 resolutions before doing this. These accomplishments/successes may look different this year. But maybe you spent more time cooking in the kitchen and are proud of some new skills or dishes you cooked up! It could also be a new family tradition that started. It’s worth looking back on your calendar and photos to reflect on all that the year brought.
  2. Do create Flexible goals for yourself. Don’t be so rigid that you don’t allow any flexibility, life and circumstances change. A year goes by fast, but A LOT can change in the matter of a year.
  3. Do create attainable goals for yourself. Don't set unrealistic goals. life happens so be realistic with what areas or goals you really do want to focus on. For example, don’t tell yourself that you are going to start working out 5-6 days a week for 1 hour if right now it isn’t something you have prioritized. Our advice, workout when it works bests for you and in those small time slots that you can fit it in. Don’t restrict yourself to one-hour workouts being the only workout that counts. It may not look as pretty, sometimes I start my workouts in my PJs (anyone else, I know I can’t be alone) and/or have a toddler running around in the background. And believe me, I miss the days where I could escape to the gym. After living in at small house and constantly in construction mode, I will be the first at the door when they do open, but until then I also won’t throw in the towel just because there are obstacles. Don’t let yourself either. A short workout is still a workout and every workout will not be your best workout.
  4. Do set intentional goals that are true to your desires (unapologetically you). Don’t compare your goals to others. The best kind of goals are those that set your heart on fire and bring you life. Life is short, so don’t waste your time on someone else’s idea of a goal. If running a marathon makes no sense to you, don’t do it just to say you did. On the other hand, if running a marathon sparks something inside of you that brings empowerment and confidence, go for it mama. Same for all goals, running a marathon is just one example.
  5. Do set simple goals. Like drinking water or meditating for 5 minutes each morning. Tie these simple goals to a habit you are already doing (Ex: meditate right after you make your coffee). Don’t take for granted that small habits build up over time and can make a big impact on your life.

Okay friends, this rounds it up! Some quick hit reminders to help you reflect and then create flexible, attainable, intentional, and simple goals. If you need help getting nitty gritty with your goals and making them SMART, check out this blog post and download the goal setting worksheet to help you get started.


Christy & Ives